tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post2515118800962753470..comments2023-10-21T06:09:27.793-05:00Comments on ..Lola B's HAS MOVED to kaseybuick.com: Regrets...Kaseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15629347779737137237noreply@blogger.comBlogger90125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-80244081080049245322009-09-29T08:48:42.015-05:002009-09-29T08:48:42.015-05:00My best friend lost her second baby after I had my...My best friend lost her second baby after I had my second baby. Her baby had a problem and at 20 weeks she had open-fetal surgery that went well (miracle), but on Easter Sunday after weeks of bed rest, she knew he was not moving. As her husband came home from church, she told him they needed to go to the ER. I went too. I got to hold that precious baby. We buried that baby. Three years later, she is finally due December 4 with another son. She has watched all of our friends have their second babies over the past two years. <br /><br />We have drifted somewhat. I never really knew what to say, and felt guilty for having two healthy wonderful children.<br /><br />In our church service Sunday, the pastor said "Christianity without suffering diminishes our connection to Jesus Christ." Helps me to put all the pain into perspective. <br /><br />Write her a letter in case she does not read your blog. Say what you said here. Just knowing it was hurting you that she was hurting will go along way to heal.Isaac's Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08460434123945925363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-47376273223262204832009-09-29T08:00:44.355-05:002009-09-29T08:00:44.355-05:00this explains a friend and I to a tee. Her husband...this explains a friend and I to a tee. Her husband died right as I had my first child. It was an awful death (cancer) and I was there as much as I could I think and well, it never felt like enough. They got engaged right when I got pregnant and he died right after I had my Ellie. She moved and we drifted... anyway this post struck some major chords.paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09732549311548601111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-90963774983166371792009-09-27T01:36:13.209-05:002009-09-27T01:36:13.209-05:00Once being a L/D nurse.. I understand this pain.. ...Once being a L/D nurse.. I understand this pain.. it is horrid.. I also understand the friendship part...I, though was on side of the fence your friend was on... we now though...are no longer friends. You.. though are not to blame...you did the best of what you knew at the time.. You can and WILL rebuild that friendship... you did not break a trust bound, or a "Girlfriends 101 bond).... you perhaps..just didn't know just what is was to help her. Have faith... and I would pass this along to her...I am sure, it would make her fell better and understand you side. Good Luck... I think you and her will end up A OK!<br />xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-24543635249096791282009-09-26T12:53:04.226-05:002009-09-26T12:53:04.226-05:00I hope you can rebuild the friendship you once had...I hope you can rebuild the friendship you once had. At least you will know you tried your very best. Good luck.Heather Simpson-Bluhmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11379073360383170960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-89373938210665823742009-09-26T12:42:41.702-05:002009-09-26T12:42:41.702-05:00Oh, how sad.
When I was about 15 weeks pregnant I ...Oh, how sad.<br />When I was about 15 weeks pregnant I was told that most likely I was going to loose the baby (loooong story) To me it was so cold how everyone acted around me like it was ok and it happens sometimes. Well, yes it does, but it never happened to me! (Fast forward a few months and we got a healthy baby boy)<br />I really hope you guys reconect, sometimes we can't truly understand what the other person is going thru...nina@themissadventuresofninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09679333311052160580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-24369923811381367462009-09-26T12:36:40.801-05:002009-09-26T12:36:40.801-05:00How beautifully written. It is so sad that time an...How beautifully written. It is so sad that time and matters of the heart distance us but you both did what you had to do to protect yourselves. If this friendship is supposed to be ongoing it will be, and the both of you will forgive and move forward to enjoy many new laughs and tears. I wish you well, sweets.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15082704384557738630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-77946960931091941632009-09-26T01:03:20.202-05:002009-09-26T01:03:20.202-05:00I don't know if anybody can really connect on ...I don't know if anybody can really connect on that level with them unless they have lost as well.<br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.makemysite.in" rel="nofollow"> Make website india </a>prashanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04583385332262124749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-27179152245497891372009-09-25T17:11:19.776-05:002009-09-25T17:11:19.776-05:00Such a touching post. I am sorry for you and your...Such a touching post. I am sorry for you and your friend. It is so strange how friendships change over time. I hope she reads your blog.Melanie @ Whimsical Creationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00109731889293246835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-10984836162827421372009-09-25T13:56:16.452-05:002009-09-25T13:56:16.452-05:00Makes my heart sad and hopeful all at the same tim...Makes my heart sad and hopeful all at the same time. I know about drifting friendships. Praying for you in this moment that everything can begin again like it was when it was great...best wishes.~Cheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08419266079702693114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-62646935281160318382009-09-25T12:54:24.804-05:002009-09-25T12:54:24.804-05:00Just posted on my facebook wall...cool beans...Lol...Just posted on my facebook wall...cool beans...Lola B!<br />http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=home#/profile.php?id=1222723325&ref=nfRobertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16493412205283777117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-24298011765569835662009-09-25T12:51:32.520-05:002009-09-25T12:51:32.520-05:00Wow...what a cool and generous giveaway...I'm ...Wow...what a cool and generous giveaway...I'm a follower as well and now I'm off to post on facebook about this...thanks again, RobertaRobertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16493412205283777117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-77402872321677267042009-09-25T08:46:06.954-05:002009-09-25T08:46:06.954-05:00This made me cry. I'm sorry for you, for your...This made me cry. I'm sorry for you, for your friend, for everyone involved. But I'm a Christian and I believe her baby is in the arms of the best Father he could ever have. It's not a cliche that life is short so even if your friend doesn't want to re-connect, love her from afar and think of her and pray for her.Bethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-72813602323063422222009-09-24T22:16:45.585-05:002009-09-24T22:16:45.585-05:00What a lovely blog and a wonderful giveaway!
I am ...What a lovely blog and a wonderful giveaway!<br />I am a follower please enter me in the drawing! Stop by my blog for a visit when you have time:)Love the Decor!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04961834150274237880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-34458714600255874652009-09-24T21:58:29.087-05:002009-09-24T21:58:29.087-05:00:`( *chin wobbling*
I'm so sorry. I hope ...:`( *chin wobbling*<br /><br />I'm so sorry. I hope you can rebuild what was once a flourishing friendship. Good luck, I'm sure everyone who's reading is saying a hope or prayer for you.~ Reganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12183630069063636603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-39289972126025762572009-09-24T21:50:56.454-05:002009-09-24T21:50:56.454-05:00Time does not heal everything but you'll never...Time does not heal everything but you'll never know unless you hunt & attempt. I tried & it failed but I now know I did my best & it wasn't meant to last.<br />Her pain was as great as your joy & I suspect that no matter how much you had been there for her it would not have been enough to help her. Losing a child is the ultimate<br />agony. <br />Perhaps enough time has passed for her to remember the love your shared. I wish you luck & love in your fight for friendship.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04604123003856840475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-54681446429333432102009-09-24T18:23:57.798-05:002009-09-24T18:23:57.798-05:00i just found your blog through a friend's blog...i just found your blog through a friend's blog about your 300th post. as i scanned down and read this, i just had to comment. about a year and a half ago, a similar situation happened to me. my friend and i already have two children each that are only weeks apart. then we found out we were both expecting again, but this time only days apart. weird-i know. i miscarried, but she only tried to contact me minimally. i truly believe God was relieving me from a very unhealthy friendship. we were given a miracle baby before doctors believed my body should have been able to do so. she is almost 9 months old now. i often think of how i feel she dropped the ball in our friendship, how i just needed some time to get myself together and gather my head, but she made the choices she did and i feel that is what ended our friendship. thank you so much for being a bigger person. thank you so much for understanding that "time heals all wounds" and wanting to fix your friendship. i truly hope and pray that your genuine desire to reconnect will be understood and accepted and that your friendship will return and grow.maribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11752003239503225916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-17799913325675615032009-09-24T13:53:54.525-05:002009-09-24T13:53:54.525-05:00Copy this post and send it to her. Then, you will...Copy this post and send it to her. Then, you will have done all you could as indeed it sounds like you have done all along.Tovahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09530003960476543808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-72013447521305727892009-09-24T12:13:07.085-05:002009-09-24T12:13:07.085-05:00What a heartbreaking story and good for you for re...What a heartbreaking story and good for you for reaching out to her. Please let us know if you're able to reconnect with her.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01268657766181550350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-32035727563779200502009-09-24T10:34:45.329-05:002009-09-24T10:34:45.329-05:00I also have a very good friend who lost her son. H...I also have a very good friend who lost her son. He lived for 2 hours. It is such a helpless, sickening feeling. I had NO IDEA how to be there and felt myself avoiding her and situations I wouldn't normally because I didn't know how to be there for her or to deal with my own feelings about it. Luckily she reached out to me and we talked about how we both felt. She told me what she needed from me. I told her how helpless I felt. We are closer now than ever before. Good luck. I hope you can salvage your friendship.Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15822191038497825833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-76208501364843222232009-09-24T10:24:06.391-05:002009-09-24T10:24:06.391-05:00Hi, my heart goes out to you too! This is so close...Hi, my heart goes out to you too! This is so close to home with one of my sisters having a beautiful baby girl and the other wanting nothing else in life except to have her own baby, It brings me to tears. <br />Wishing you all the best, Have a sweet day! xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00128209724379747452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-42870936305630140652009-09-24T10:17:12.743-05:002009-09-24T10:17:12.743-05:00Your blog is beautiful! Thanks for sharing! Brandy...Your blog is beautiful! Thanks for sharing! BrandyBrandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14733912052753586366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-14722847414259784972009-09-23T22:42:18.115-05:002009-09-23T22:42:18.115-05:00Such a terribly awful thing to go through. I love ...Such a terribly awful thing to go through. I love that you have the heart and guts to revisit it. That's something right there. Something huge, really. I'm so sorry that you carry this regret with you, but it shows that you know how to be a friend and to love and that you care. I cannot even imagine losing a child. I'm willing to bet that she knows you love her.PS~Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16803905155373121909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-83662676375520239172009-09-23T21:21:13.139-05:002009-09-23T21:21:13.139-05:00Wow Kasey, there are no rules or directions to sit...Wow Kasey, there are no rules or directions to situations like that. It is very hard to get through situations like that. Hopefully you can reconnect and start anew. You sound like you are willing to explain yourself and how you feel, old wounds sometimes can be healed. Best of luck. I know it was hard to bring this up.<br />ZizetteChez Zizihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09486913481401519147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-35831089133343388482009-09-23T20:08:00.397-05:002009-09-23T20:08:00.397-05:00Kasey - you couldn't get much more honest if y...Kasey - you couldn't get much more honest if you tried. It makes my heart break for the both of you. I hope she sees your post or someone lets her know. Thanks for sharing.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03647422076218439659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1657464649079822028.post-44871034456552505992009-09-23T19:40:53.050-05:002009-09-23T19:40:53.050-05:00Dear Kasey,
I so hope that your dear friend reads ...Dear Kasey,<br />I so hope that your dear friend reads your blog. As a mother who has lost twin sons, it was so hurtful to have friends who (thinking it was for the best) did not let me talk about my loss, or tired to sheild me from seeing their babies. It was like there was a huge elephant in the room that no one wanted to talk about. I have a dear friend who had her sweet son the same day I was due with mine. It is such a blessing to see him grow up, even if it is just through pictures now that we moved away...<br /><br />I hope your friend got the help she needed to heal and move forward. Seeing a grief counselor was the best thing I ever did! <br /><br />Please send a letter to your friend. I'm sure she thinks of you, too. Best of luck.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05808517443099783655noreply@blogger.com