7.28.2009

green door

Hello girls.......


Let me tell you what a little couple's therapy does for one's soul........


for 5 days a year.....we {the hubby and i} get to sneak away to a home my parents have on a beach halfway between San Francisco and Los Angeles.


We sneak away with no children.......


yup.....no children............


of course i call everyday.......


and my wonderful mother watches my children.......for 5 days straight........


she doesn't complain to me.........she manages just fine.......and i don't care if someone is dirty or if my home is a mess......


because i have 5 days with my hubby to myself.





Marriage is hard.....oh, i know.


but it is so important to carve time out and put the children aside......to make time for one another.



A true test in marriage came out when we were wine tasting with some friends....and we came across this adorable little house.


I jumped up and down with delight.......because i was going to get our picture taken here......and he just laughed.


How can you laugh at me?........but he said......i'm laughing because the minute i saw the doors....i knew you had a plan.....

....he could have rolled his eye's {and he probably did}, but he was being supportive in a way that i wanted him to be.....

and that means alot.





Marriage is a two way street..........or two doors if you must have the actual visual here........when one door is open.......the other might be closed........sometimes both doors are open...and sometimes they are closed....


hmmmm.


don't know where i'm going with this....


sounded so good and profound there for a minute.......


i just say....keep the doors open......then all is well....

did that sound good?....sounds good over here.......

and Bryan just said.....open doors are really good......

so there.

Open doors are good.

But i sure love the look of these closed doors!








"what is it? My dear?"




"Ah, how can we bear it?"




"Bear what?"




"This. For so short a time. How can we sleep this time away?"




"We can be quiet together, and pretend- since it is only


the beginning-that we have all the time in the world."




"And every day we shall have less. And then none."




"Would you rather, therefore, have nothing at all?"




"No. This is where I have always been comming to. Since my


time began. And when i go away form here, this will be the


mid-point, to which everything ran, before, and from which


everything will run. But now, my love, we are here, we are now,


and those other times are running elsewhere."
{A.S. Byatt-possession}




61 comments:

Katie said...

Love this! It makes me so excited for my get-away with my hubby this weekend!!

Victoria@WhimsybyVictoria said...

Kasey, love this. Perfectly said. Time with each other away from the kids is essential! My husband and I try to have date nights and time away...we always find that we still like each other if not more than when we first met. So glad you had this oppurtunity and the doors are just beautiful.

Hugs,
~Victoria~

Piney Rose said...

Oh how wonderful - I think I will plan a little surprise getaway with my hubby very soon! Love the pic with the sea green doors.

Zita - Mlle Magpie said...

Love those wonderful doors, Kasey, and the words :)

susan said...

oh my gosh! I love the green doors!
My hubby would roll his eyes also.
beautiful.

flax and spindle said...

Perfectly written!! and those photos are so cool...love it love it!

truly blessed said...

what a beautiful quote, lovely green door pics and the music goes so well with it all! :) glad you had a fabulous trip together. what a blessing.

Chez Zizi said...

Kasey, I love the doors and that you guys go away with each other. It's nice to hear you had a good time.
Zizette

alee said...

that quote just reached out & touched me...
I can't wait to share it with my sweetie ... :)
{Which I know will say uh-huh & perhaps even do the eye roll thing too:)!} Making time for ea. other is essential!

Anna said...

cute post :)

Federica said...

The color of those doors is amazing!

paige said...

look at you being "deep"!
i love it

seriously lovin those green door photos...just beautiful
xo

Adrienne said...

it is important to carve out time for just each other. i am a big believer in this! love the literary insert, thoughtful and sweet.

Raining Pearls said...

So glad yo uhad a good time, love the doors :)

Vana said...

we've inspired me my friend...to take a little time away with my love and do just that! You should frame these green door pictures. So perfect!

Susie from Bienvenue said...

Beautiful doors...words..and the two people in front of it! Have fun my friend..have fun..wink wink~

Sa-Sea Boutique said...

such a great read!!! better go open my door.....i think i have it locked at the moment. :)
Love those pictures too and the fact that you two got to get away for a bit. I need to start planning a trip asap!!!

Katy said...

I would have wanted to take a picture by that little place as well, just beautiful. Those green doors, open or closed are darling....so are you two.

Martha said...

That is one of the most beautiful posts I have EVER read! I love the doors and what a need little quote and words you put with it...I think the best part is when they know we will have "plans" with something even before we say it...whether they roll their eyes or not...it is wonderful!
I definitely think those pictures say even more than a 1,000 words...a beautiful little story. Thank you for sharing... I just love your music...are these songs are what on the CD you showed in your post about your at home event...if so...I would LOVE to get one from you:)

traci said...

i love the door analogy. so, so true. cute pictures. i love that he knew something was coming with those doors. glad you had a great time.

pve design said...

We have a weekend planned for September and I look forward to the time we will share with each other.
pve

Lou Cinda said...

Love the doors. LOVE the post! my sweet husband and I took last Saturday, went to Stone Mountain and spent the whole day together, just us....it was wonderful!

Have a great week!

Lou Cinda :)

Morning T said...

You're too cute Kasey and I love the pics in front of the green doors.

Beth said...

I love the doors, your photography, your way with words, and your obvious love for your man. Your blog is fantastic because out of all the one's I check yours has an ethereal, playful, whimsical feel to it that makes ME feel like I'm on a mini-vacation. Love it.

Laura Ingalls Gunn said...

I think I shall go and kiss my husband. :)

Jeanneoli said...

Glad you are had a good time. And I see you found the book;-)

Wendy @ The Shabby Nest said...

Lovin' the photos...lovin' the fact that hubby knows you so well. And I think you sounded quite profound. Really. ;-)

littlebyrd said...

great post, beautiful pictures! It looks and sounds like you had a wonderful time :)

Rue said...

The best advice my mom ever gave me was to spend alone time with my husband, whether it was for a night out or a week away. I'm glad you took that time :)

Beautiful post my friend.

xoxo,
rue

McMaster and Storm said...

matt & i are heading to savannah and i was so worried about leaving both kidlets......thank you for this post we deserve time away for our marriage.

{this was perfect timing, kasey}

oh, california ready to visit again. i miss. it.

hugs,
kara

Allegra said...

THANK YOU for making time to meet ME on a vacation that is so special for you both!
It looks like the blog world missed you :)
I love your photos and MUST know the name of the place so we can go!

Sarah said...

Aww, so sweet! I love it when our husbands' know us so well that they can be prepared before we utter a word! That is one thing I think makes marriage so special is when you just know! Sounds like you had a wonderful time together! So glad you are able to get away like that! It definitely makes the difference! I love your saying too! :)

Backyard Candle Co. said...

Sounds awesome!!!

Rachel said...

I'm glad you had such a wonderful time! I thought you sounded very profound and I love the green doors...xoxo

Jackie said...

Beautiful words! Inspiring me to plan time away...there's not too much better than a good marriage and while sometimes it's hard work to keep it that way, it's so worth it! Love the green doors! Glad you had a great time away!

Laura said...

shit. I just slammed my door.

Simply Colette said...

Glad you had a nice time... i love the honesty in your testimonies. :)

And that cottage is great! I love the distressed painted wood... :)

Tattered Goods said...

It's a framer, thats 4 sure. I think you should have it done on canvas, it would go nicely with your decor. I hope you enjoyed your trip and are nice and relaxed.

Sheila

Farmgirl Paints said...

Hey Girlie,
Glad you and your hubby got some much needed time away...what a luxury. Great pics with the awesome green doors. What a cute house. I totally would have taken pics too. Very frameable...is that a word??

Leah C said...

Oh you do have a way with words! So beautiful...and yes, you were profound:) Five days to relish & savor; five important days. Every married couple needs those days.
P.S. Love the green doors! And I would have begged my husband for a photo there:)

Aubree @ The Weathered Cottage said...

Wow. adorable! May I use that top picture of the door? Don't know what for, but I LOVE it!

Alicia said...

awww! i love the pictures!! my husband and i take a trip every year too and while i miss my kids terribly, there's nothing better than being able to just devote myself to my husband 24/7.

eco-stylista said...

lovely post and the shade of that door is awesome..

Beth said...

What a great post. I love the doors!

paperbird said...

Great post and I love love love the doors.

Tracey said...

Howdy! I'm proud of Bryan for going along with the pic - so you! I love that little house (and doors)!! Glad you're back, now when are we going out...

:) T

Bay said...

Darling, just darling. Love those doors and the pic of the two of you. So happy you had a relaxing trip and I hope you enjoyed lots and lots of wine! Glad you're back!

paperhill said...

how sweet! love the pictures of the two of you! glad you are enjoying yourself, love the poem.

Brenna LaPray said...

I love the green doors!! I love the way you write! You and Bryan have such a romantic connection. A beautiful girl for a handsome man. I'm glad you had a wonderful 5 days!

a little bit vintage said...

Love the color of the door! Glad you had such a nice time with the hubs!

Rachel

Jacqueline said...

I'm so sorry that I've neglected you....I forgot to put you in my sidebar but I will do that in a minute...I do have trouble getting into your blog though...probably my lousy computer !!!!
Anyway what a lovely post and wonderful sentiments....and , just to be shallow fr a moment...I love the doors !!! XXXX

Tracy is ... Loving Pretty Things said...

fabulous - can't wait to her from Allegra about Y.O.U. oh yes, we'll be talking. ;)

LOVE the green doors. perfect!

sounds like you had a great trip!

xoxo

J.J. said...

Kasey - that last part is just lovely. Breathtaking actually. As is that phot of you and hubby with the gorgeous doors. Lucky Lucky girl. :)

goddessof4 said...

What a pretty picture!!! We were supposed to get away this weekend but didn't get to go. You guys look so cute and happy!!!!! Sara

Brandie said...

Love this!

Lissa said...

very, very romantic. love the pics. I would've done the same thing. Not as profound as you though. Love it kasey!

Tara said...

Great photos!! and love the words...perhpas I have a revolving door???

Lori said...

Love this Kasey! I am so glad that you had a good get-away ~ just what we all need ~ blankets or not!

Kristin said...

Kasey...I love, love, love, love, love this post!
precious-darlin as we say in the south.
I love how real you are and just wonderful in every way!

apriliniowa said...

lovely!

Vintage Modern Girl said...

those doors are amazing! so glad you got some away time with your hubby. and thank you for your sweet comment on my blog!! :-)