5.31.2009

pixie girl....

this girl told me a few weeks ago that she doesn't want short hair anymore.......

and it's taken me this long to get myself together in order to write a post about it.

let me tell you a few things about Lola.....she's a strong willed....no holds bar....a non girlie girl....

she wears striped shirts with polka dot tops....

she wore a dress over jeans and converse shoes to the mother daughter tea.....

she has a closet full of dresses and skirts.........that have never been worn.........





i have to bribe her with candy in order to take her photo in something decent ......

she lives in jeans........

we had the discussion of where babies come from and she said...no thanks mom....i don't think i want any babies.....




....i only have control over two things in her life at the moment......





...her hair and her room.....

she asked that i paint her room......and i said....hmmm.....sure...let me think about it....

and now she doesn't want her "signature" short pixie cut.......she's had the look since she was almost 3.

It's HER look. No one else has her look at her age. I love it.........

....like i love her name......and her whole self.......her image...her personality......



...at what point do you say....o.k.?

i know it's just hair....i know.

but i also just booked a ticket to let my 8 year old boy fly home from his grandparents home...on an AIRPLANE............................ by HIMSELF!

Do parents actually do this?..........let an 8 year old fly by themselves?......

....o.k...................

i'm hyperventilating.........

....call 911.....

...oh...flashback.....please don't ....because i hear i might get a bill for that........

...and yes..i did give them the cookies.................and i asked them if they wanted my children....

...for free...nothing involved.......but they smiled.....

o.k....i don't know if they were really smiling...but they took the cookies....






..please tell me this is normal....and i will survive not being in control of such a minor problem such as hair....

..pixie hair....on a girl named Lola....
...L..O...L...A...lola....
{and yes...she rides a vintage PIXIE pink banana seat bike......
..and the Lola b shop....will re-open thursday.......
xo






73 comments:

Emily said...

It's just hair. It took me six months to convince my daughter to cut off her long beautiful hair to donate to locks of love. Now she's growing it back out. I love it both ways! Good Luck!

Jennifer said...

She is so precious and she sounds so much like my 11 year old Faith!She refuses to wear a dress unless there are jeans involved. Last year we compromised. We did a shoulder length cut,real jagged and we called it her rock n roll hair, she was thrilled! We always fuss over clothes and she won't let me take pictures of her in nice things. I started taking her to the thrift store and letting her "design her own outfits", which can be really scary and my mom can't believe I would let her do such a thing. So now as long as she takes a bath, combs her hair, and brushes her teeth I just rejoice in that!!! Have a great week!

Jackie said...

Oh, the hair...I have a just turned 12 year old non-girlie very independent girl with AMAZING curly hair which I would love to have - I say - wear it down, it's so pretty...she wears a pony tail every day. Someday when she's ready she'll appreciate what she has. I'd say let her experiment - you can always cut it again!

J.J. said...

Yes...it may be "just hair"....but it isn't "just hair" is it?

I will hold your hand and cry with you. I think I will cry with you right now. (holding my own hand in place of yours)

It is weird how somethings that shouldn't matter....do....and some things that should...well, don't.

hugs...and we shall see where the wind takes her.

Fresh Poppy Sisters said...

I say let her grow it out. Once she realized how much you have to brush it and get tangles out, she will want to chop it off again. Works for me!

Laurel @ Ducks in a Row said...

Lola is darling - I'd love for our daughters to be friends. Being a mom is rewarding and it stinks - doesn't it.

vintage at heart said...

They so have minds of their own..my 10 year old is the same way about dresses and her own way. I just go with the flow. My two grown children say "Mom you let her get away with murder" I tell them after you two I am tired!!!! lol. Lola is a sweet pixie!!! Enjoy reading your blog!!! :))

The Little Red Shop said...

My cousin Sonjia brought home 2 baby kitties for her babies this week. She has 2 boys, and a little tiny girl. They named the kitties Lola and Maggie. Lola is a short-haired Torti. Don't worry, Kasey! There will be balance in the world!

: )

Julie M.

B said...

Oh, poor Kasey! Short hair or long hair she'll still be your precious Lola - and she'll love you even more for letting her do her *thing* x

Victoria@WhimsybyVictoria said...

I just have to tell you...I love your blog! I always either laugh,cry or sigh at the prettiness! She is so cute with her pixie cut, and your right not many can pull it off but she is so unique and pretty with it! I am sure any style will look great on her though. I have only one girl and I remember when she started resisting me on different clothes, hair...lot's more to come...hang on! She now is almost 14 and little by little I have had to let go of what I think I want her to be...she never enjoyed or wants to do ballet, a little tear * sigh* but she is amazing! It is so hard being a mom, we love them so much and yet they are their own people who don't always want us to hold their hands. As for your son, if it makes you feel any better our son, (he lives with his mother) flies everytime he comes for his stay here and back. He has been flying since 8 and they do such a great job looking over him. Hang in there! From one worried mother to another. ;)

Hugs to you,
~Victoria~
Oh, good luck this week on your entry!!!

Lila Sweetheart said...

When I was 5 I flew from Jamaica to San Diego by myself and look at me now :) You'll be just fine.

Julie said...

You are normal! :) I had to lol about the no kids part. My girls told me they were both going to adopt. My youngest finally changed her mind but my oldest isn't budging.

Don't you love their personalities!

And I know it's scary but I'm sure your little guy will be fine.

xo

p.s. I love her hair!

Brenna LaPray said...

Always loved the pixie but can't wait to see Lola with long hair. You never know, maybe the long hair will bring on the dresses!!! Lola will forever be a doll no matter what length of hair she has.

Jen r. said...

That's so funny. I just cut my girl's hair short... an 8 year old flying??!! Are you giving him cookies baked with lead paint too? ;)

The Hills said...

That's so sweet!! I love a girl that knows what she wants! And one of the best things about being a parent is getting to know the person that they really are and always have been. :)

Paula said...

What a precious little girl....I am a grandma and I say let her do what she wants with her hair for now. She won't keep it long for long...not when she finds out how hard it is to take care of. I love her name....

Elise said...

I say let her have what she wants...hair wise. I have an extremely girly girl that never wants to match or dress for the weather. At first, it bothered me that she wouldn't wear bows or cutesy dresses that I made for her{we ARE from the South!!}, but I've learned to love and embrace her, quirks and all.
My brother used to fly at a very young age and he lived to tell about it, I'm sure your little man will be fine!!
Elise

Janelle said...

Well I don't have this problem yet. My girlie girl is only 3 and I have to admit, I taught her how to be a girlie girl from day one, but she has taken off with it and wants everything pink and pretty with a lot of bling. She has never fought me on the hair YET. It's long and usually braided, but she just sits there and let's me do my thing. She's never known any different.

You might surprise yourself and love her with long hair too. The great thing about hair is, the style and length don't have to be forever. I say let her grow it out cause you know when the makeup issue rolls around , the hair battle will seem like nothing.

As far as your son flying alone....from what I'v seen, the flight attendants treat them like first class royalty. He'll probably love it and ask to fly alone from here on out!

Janelle said...

P.S. I use to have a bananna seat just like that when I was 6 and I loved it. Thanks for bringing me down memory lane.

Pretty Little World said...
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Pretty Little World said...

Your daughter is perfectly lovely! And that won't change! In fact, she won't really change with long hair either. And if she starts willingly wearing dresses too? Well, she'll still be the same daughter then as well :)

Rue said...

Annie was the same way, total tomboy, until she turned 12. I could dress her in cute dresses until she was old enough to talk and tell me no. Her hair wouldn't grow past her ears forever, so when it finally did I was thrilled, now she wants to cut it like Pat Benatar, although she has no idea what I'm talking about when I say that. All I'm saying is that it won't stop there. This is one of the easy parts... wait until she's 13 and becomes "a woman". (whimper, sigh...) shoot me! LOL

xoxo,
rue

Jemm said...

Maybe if you let her grow it out she won't like it cause it will get in her eyes and face and feel funny if it's been short forever. If she does like it then...maybe it was for the best. How old is she? She may be just starting to test out her independence too :)

Federica said...

She's adorable and very, very beautiful!
You're a lucky mom!

Happy Monday!

LuLu & Co. said...

I feel your hair pain... mine are wanting their hair their way now... and that means brushing it to them is half brushing it to me... oh my gosh I never knew hair was going to be such an issue with girls... What was I thinking!Lola is a CutIE!!!
LuLu

Wendy @ The Shabby Nest said...

Hey Lady...Hang in there with the hair. She may just start growing it out and then get impatient and ask you to cut it off for her again. Or you may surprise yourself and actually like it longer. ;-)

Simply Me Art said...

Oh Sweety, your Pretty Lucky you still have control over her Hair and her Room! You wait, with a Adorable strong willed boy little Girl like Lola, you are on borrowed time with what you control,LOL...let her grow her hair out too.. she is growing up
Jamie

Haven and Home said...

How cute is that post? She is darling!

Brandie said...

Soo cute! I know what you mean though. Sometimes little things like that are the ones that really mean a whole lot. Last month when i put Layla in the 24 to 28 month nursery at church I cried. It is really such a little insignificant thing but it was huge to me at the time (I have had a hard time with her turning 2, can you tell?). I will be upset when she someday wants me to cut off her hair, but oh, how I hope that is a very far way off. ((hugs))

truly blessed said...

Her hair will still be "her" whether it's long or short. Grow her pixie out into a shoulder length shag. It'll still be fun and fabulous, just like her. (The thing is...once she grows it out more than likely she'll want it cut again. It's just the way it is in the world of girls and hair. Says the Mom with 5 of them.) :) The girl has style. She'll still have it no matter her hair length. She'll still look like Lola, I promise. But oh, isn't it hard when they grow?
Let go of the small stuff my friend and hold fast to the stuff that truly matters. Like if she asks for a tat or a piercing? THEN I'd put my foot down.:)
Count your blessings!

Julia said...

What a great post :) I too love her pixie cut!

It was incredible meeting you guys this weekend down on Navy Pier! I've been listening to your music all morning, my dear, you have great taste in music :)

littlebyrd said...

I love her short hair! But whatever, maybe it will get long and she won't like it and go back to the pixie!

Tara said...

Lola is Lola...short hair or long hair...what everyone really loves about her will not change, nope, no way! And you know what, I agree with little byrd, she will grow it out and then when she gets older she will want her short hair back! I do know how you feel though, my son threw his blanky back in his crib yesterday after his nap and said, "no way mommy, no way", my heart melted (again), he is only 2 and doesn't want his life line anymore...what???? :0 when did he grow up?

Rebekah said...

Remember her "signature" pixie cut is what *you* chose for her! At least the change will be gradual. Imagine the anxiety you'd be in if she wanted to cut L-O-N-G hair short, as I did when I was about her age (with my mom's blessing).

Junk Mammas said...

My husband just found my daughter a vintage pink banana seat bike a couple weeks ago. He's fixing it up, I just hope she will ride it.

Good luck with the hair saga. My daughter wanted her's cut short and I wasn't so sure. But I love it now.

Nice and Easy Antiques said...

You are right...it's just hair!!!!

Let me tel you,this is just the beginning....pick your battles!!!!

She will be always unique!

XO
Clara

Simone said...

You write the best posts, they always make me smile - and often laugh out loud.....altho I have to confess at choking and sending coffee thru my nose at Jen r's response about giving your 8 yr old cookies with lead paint on!!!!
I too have an 8 year old - who I can't imagine flying without me but if she did I am sure she would get more attention that anyone on the plane :)
Your daughter is adorable - love the Pixie cut. Mine still loves dresses/pink/pretty, you name it - but one terrible day I know that will change!
Thanks for your nice comments on my blog!
Simone :)
PS Loved firemen tale.....ROFL!!!

Bay said...

My parents let me fly from CO to AZ at about 8 or 9 to go see my sister and I still remember how it made me feel. It's something I'll never forget, so I think it will be just fine! I love Lola's little pixie cut and I think she might appreciate it when she can't just get up in the morning and go! All that brushing and the tangles-That's something I remember too! Brushing out tangles and how much it hurt. Good luck!

Sarah said...

I know what you mean! It is so hard as they take more opinion and charge in things in their life as they get older. But this too might be her branch into who she becomes and she might just surprise you. She may become a truly girly girl with a little urban funk mixed in and start a vintage store called Kasey's Treasures when she gets older. It could happen! :)

Kristin said...

I am certain this is hard. I am a control freak and think if I had children I would want to be in control of their every move.

Being that I was a girl with a pixie cut my whole life growing up because my Mom thought it was cute...., well, when I got into high school I grew it long and it will forever remain that way. In short - no pun intended there, but to let her soar and make that hair decision will mean more to her than you know. In the end she will still be beautiful Lola and perfect. I am just sayin!

Hope you have a beautiful day Kasey!

Backyard Candle Co. said...

I say, let her do what she wants with it. The reason I say this is because, as a child, my mom always made me do my hair the way she wanted and I remember being so mad at her about it. It sounds like she is a spunky little thing. There are soooo many cute mid-length spunky styles she could go with. I was a hairdresser for 11 years, so I kind of want to get my hands on her hair! It would be so fun! Good luck!!

Laura said...

if you wanna talk "letting go of control" I am your girl. My two oldest are in Oregon RIGHT NOW at a funeral withOUT their mommy, and where is that damn paper bag for me to breathe into????...let's talk...But it will require a few bottles of wine, an hour at Anthro, and a grande latte to get me through it.

Annie is growing out her short bob, too....

(hmmm......let's make that FOUR bottles of wine)

(and I will go out on a limb and tell you that these feelings are completely NORMAL. cause if they are not, then I am just as crazy as you. Just not as cute. But yes, just as crazy!)

Rebecca Frame said...

i love that your little girl has her own style...it's so unique...my little morgan lives in her jeans too...but so do i... so it's hard to talk her into a dress...although she has caved and started wearing sun dresses this summer...
i have thought that our little boys look a like too...the cutest.
have a lovely day sweet kasey!
xo
rebecca

C Maisy said...

I say let her do what she wants. Not saying that's an easy task. You know how I feel about change. She is such an amazing young girl. Just nurture her and you will be surprised at the mountains she will move.
She's a lot like her mama :)
And you know how I feel about her mama :)

Janelle said...

Hi Kasey,
I got your comment on my post. That is indeed the last post I posted. So you haven't missed anything. Can you tell I slowed down quite a bit? It came so easily before because it was all bottled up in me for so long. Now I'm empty which is a good thing. Just waiting to get filled up again. Love reading other blogs in the meantime!!! Thanks for checking in and for caring. Hugs!!!

Farmgirl Paints said...

Oh honey I feel your pain. They are gonna change and we can't really stop them...can we? I mean I could if I would but we can't. Maybe your little Lola will look adorable in a slightly longer shag cut. Oh and I had a bike that when I was little...sob.

The whole flying home on a airplane by themselves thing. I can't really help you there. I would have to go. I'm just a freak that way. Good luck with that one:)

Kacey said...

Maybe long hair will be the new signature Lola 'do!

paige said...

sweet kasey--i can totally relate.
savannah asked me today if she could put a strip of purple in her hair ( not trying to one-up-ya or anything) but i calmly replied--aren't you concerned what folks will say? she just smiled. she came home from younglife camp last spring after calling me to tell me that when she arrived home she had done "something"--i'm sure you can just imagine where i was thinking that might be going...only to have her get off the bus and proudly show me her 'temporary streak of hot pink' in her hair...whew.
anyway....she sounds like a freebird...guessing that apple landed right beside her tree, didn't it???xoxoxo

Jen said...

Oh, Kasey, it is only hair, but she does look so darn adorable with the pixie cut...maybe you can convince her to keep it a bit longer. I had the same cut when I was 7 or 8, and I remember deciding that I wanted to grow it out--my mom was so upset. I actually went back to it when I was in my early 20s. Maybe Lola will go back to it too?

koralee said...

very very cute..you, your daughter and that pink bike...i do think a girl named Lola should have pixie hair and ride a vintage bike...if we could have our way the whole world would be filled with cute kids ....doing adorable things ...and wearing amazing clothes...why do they have to grow up?

Honey Bend Vintage said...

Kasey- when I was 5 I demanded my mom cut my long hair off to a cute pixie cut. i never went back to long hair. hope you get the same reactiom! My parents put me on a plane by myself when i was 9 and it wa sthe best time i ever had. I got all the sttention ans sat in first class so they could keep an eye on me. He will love it, you will worry but it will be such a memorable event~
Bristol

Honey Bend Vintage said...

Yeah can I spell!
Bristol

mrs boo radley said...

That child is way too cute. I can only imagine that you must be torn about whether or not to let her get rid of the signature 'do.

I am not one to consult on matters of all things tressy, as I am clearly unable to decide if I'm going to keep mine long or cut it. I debate about it every day. Sometimes multiple times during the day.

Suzann @ Lavender and Roses said...

Oh let her grow it out. Chances are her style will not be anything like her girlfriend's or anyone elses. She seems like a girl all her own.
As a mama of older children, I can tell you that you've got to pick your battles carefully and hair, not so much.
As for 8 and on a plane? I'd hyper-ventilate too sweetie.

Anonymous said...

Hair is something that all girls like to have a choice about, I learned early on with my children to pick your battles.......It's just hair!!!

Lissa said...

I feel your pain!! I've given up the hair and clothes fight with my Emma. She usually looks like a disheveled hippie. That's her look... homeless child... What's a mom to do? I just don't post photos on those days. (which are most days) I'm too tired to fight it any more. At least I look cute. ;)

JerriR said...

Kasey you are sooo right...its just hair, albeit Lola's hair is soo adorable!
My son has had green hair, white hair, dread locks, etc. in his 18 years but the lesson I learned throught it all was "its just hair" and it is their hair after all. Keep them close, love them up, and respect their right to choose(in most situations, wink wink).

down and out chic said...

she's so cute and these are great photos! loving your sweet blog.

the wild raspberry said...

she is such a little fashionista...let her choose! it is her hair after all.

traci said...

she is such a doll. it's only hair. i am sure she will be adorable in whatever style. and i love her bike.

stacy di said...

she will still be her own independent kid..even with long hair {and I'm sure she'll make it her own spunky style}!

I'm sending my kids on planes alone this summer too...my son to Spain, and my daughter to visit grandparents...it's always nerve wracking.

its so very cheri said...

You just never know when a little tom boy turns a page and becomes the fairy princess. It's just hair ...

Cheri
www.itssoverycheri.blogspot.com

Zoë Moët said...

That is a pretty darned cute hair cut...but think of it this way...if she grows it out, it can always go short again! Also, I used to fly alone a lot as a child because my parents were divorced and lived far away from each other. It's really not a bad experience at all, the air staff take great care of you, and there's free juice! What more could a kiddo want?

Chablis said...

I love the pixie cut. My 4 year old 2 years ago (she's now 6) cut her own hair. I had no other choice but to do the pixie cut and she looked ADORABLE!! I've considered doing it agian, but she doesn't want it that way either. :(
Plus it was so low key and easy...another reason I want to do it again.

Good luck with the 8 year old on the airplane. I hear people do it all the time. There's no where he can go, so I guess he'll be okay. :)

PS~Erin said...

Oh, this post made me both smile and want to cry. We are going through changes with our 6 yr old daughter, and while her independence is what we've always wanted to instill, I'm not quite ready for it just yet. Oh, I miss my baby girl, but I know I'm going to like the woman we're raising. The in between is going to be so tough/heart-wrenching/exciting... Hang in there. I'm so with you.

Alyssa said...

you are such a sweet mama :) what a lucky girl, that lola. She will be cute with any hair do - short or long. Let her 'will' shine.

fyi - I flew alone at age 9 two times between chicago and seattle. Everyone was very nice.

Leah C said...

I have two daughters...and I have to beg or bribe them to wear a dress or skirt:) Control? I think I "lost control" when they learned to talk!

Jen Kershner said...

And so it begins! She will look beautiful no matter what her hair looks like!

Jamie said...

She's such a cutie. It's tough to see them grow up sometimes. I know it is for me. It was so much easier when I got to make all the decisions for them.

KLBK said...

how loving you are to your daughter! truly touching :) And yes...it's just hair :)

KLBK said...

& yes. I've been flying alone since I was 7. and the idea that I can go anywhere is invigorating.

Life with Kaishon said...

She is adorable as can be. Isn't it so hard to let them grow up? I keep trying to stop mine...but he just won't listen!

elaine said...

your l-o-l-a lola is not the only beautiful thing in your post. so is your photography, storytelling and presentation. you are inspiration! i am turning friends of "the snoopster" on to you and have just added your link to my baby blog (it's about a week and a half old!). cheers! elaine