11.22.2009

Who are you..

I am a flower loving....

vintage craving...

farmhouse living...

ruffle wearing...

girl.

I love my family....

my babies bring out the best...

they bring out the worst....

I help anyone in need...

not asking for anything in return....

I was brought up by two hardworking parents..

that are still together today.


Have you ever just thought for a minute about who you are...


because i know i still struggle...


and i know i'm not the most confident girl in town...


i want to be confident....


i know i can make decisions that affect my family..


the way i live...


the way i love...


and life.


I love a good one on one conversation....


so take for instance ...today..my family and i had taken a bike ride


to the park....


and while the kids played in the woods...


my sweet hubby and i laid on the park benches....


chatting away...


about nothing ...


about everything...


i love that we can lay there and we just get each other...


we are both comfortable.


Who do you live your life for....


is it to please other people... or is it to fulfill


the life you created...the life you are living..


which brings me to this...













Is your family perfect....



i know mine is not...we have our struggles..our everyday tribulations...



as a matter of fact....



my husbands brother has decided to get married....



to a girl that the rest of the family might not think is the perfect choice...



but the smacker is ....



they have decided to get married in Hong Kong.



gulp.



double gulp.



Seriously....have you looked at airfare to Hong Kong lately?



It's not cheap....nor is the hotel....



and i'm not going to tell you that on the invite...



there are four different events going on for the week of the wedding..



with each of them requiring a specific dress code.



Now i have a feeling that the reason that the wedding might be in Hong Kong is ....



the "girl" wanted it there because she didn't want any of my hubby's family coming...



i seriously think ...that she see's us as



trailer trash.



triple gulp.....



maybe if i decide to go with bryan...i can pull out my fake teeth and tell bryan that he



can grow his mullet out.



Holy schmoly.....how did i get this far....



i'm just wanting to say....that no family is perfect...



no person is perfect...



we all struggle ....



I am me....



who are you?



xo



p.s. I finally figured out how to enlarge my pictures...i love when i figure these things out!

oh...and did you get to scroll down and read only the enlarged words?














65 comments:

Hopeless Chest said...

ugh!! unbelievable.

and i DID enjoy going back through and reading only the big words. very clever, and well said.

i struggle with my brother's choice for a wife. but i find myself repeating, "as long as he's happy, as long as he's happy"

good luck with that!

Mikal said...

Wow.... you have such a poetic way with words. Loved the bold words...

Hopefully over time, your sister-in-law (to be) will see the gift she's been given by observing you and your family... living a real life, like the rest of us.

Thanks for sharing,

Mikal

GypsyNurse said...

I am gulping..... but I guess that is ok...because the "gulp prior was the one, you know that you get when you are about to cry..and you throat is all tight, like there is a ball stuck in it....well..that is where I was before the Hong Kong drama. So it saved me from a downpour of tears!
beautifully done..

Julie Harward said...

There is no such thing as a perfect family! If they think so, they are, "a legend in their own minds!" This world is crazy and it's taking it's toll out on families...But there are good families that are hanging together getting through it too. But still, no one is perfect and there are no perfect families! So it's ok when things aren't always smooth, the important thing I think is to always extend "LOVE"...always! Come say hi :D

Martha said...

Oh I LOVE this post...because...YEP...we are far from perfect in our family:)....and may I say clever, clever about your enlarged words...Kasey I just love your writing and posts...and your bench conversation sounds soooo dreamy! I'm so glad you enjoyed...and definitely a BIG G.U.L.P. about the wedding in Hong Kong...WOW! ...the mullet comment was the best!

Tattered Goods said...

Wedding or no wedding...I have no desire to take a very long flight especially to Hong Kong. I loved the post it was well said :) I hope you have a great Monday!

smiles,
sheila

Gail said...

Your honest words are so inspiring and comforting to know someone else out there is struggling to figure out life like me. Thank you for your good ol' fashioned bluntness. Love it. I love that you are your husband have bench conversations. I love that you are honest about yourself and your family. What a breath of fresh air in this world of fakers!

-Gail

Simply Me Art said...

I am a Dysfunctional mom with a Big Ole Dysfunctional Family and I wouldn't have it any other way. Even our animals have some kind of issue. No Family is Perfect and if they try to come across like they are Perfect then they are more Nuts then I! Now for the wedding in Hong Kong, I sure hope your BIL or future SIL don't read your Blog!! LOL...Welcome to my World of Crazy extended family. I would draw the conclusion that they don't mind if you all miss the Wedding. They'll get over it. You know Destination Weddings are all the Rage now! xo

Preppy Mama said...

Very clever. This post is so tugging at my heartstrings. I am so far from perfect and I have always given off the vibe as confident, but the truth is I am so far from it. I know now its ok, but in not standing up for myself in certain "inlaw" situations it has created such problems and I am learning at 33 that life has not evolved all that much from 8th grade! Thanks for sharing so honestly.

Florence said...

I am just me and don't pretend to be some one else or just try to please people to get on their good side. I like your humor its great. I think all families have those that we just can't figure out what is with them. Have a great Thanksgiving. Florence

Lori said...

I love the message in your enlarged words Kasey! You are a clever one and I don't care what anyone else says ~ I would love to sit down with a bottle of wine and have a one on one conversation with you!
Hong Kong is quite the journey for a wedding... maybe they can have a hoedown when they get back for all the kin folk!

Tracey said...

Hey girlie! You might not be perfect, but I think you're awfully special! And, have I told you lately how talented you are?? Miss ya...talk tomorrow!

Hope you had a nice weekend!

:) T

***LIZ*** said...

Wow, that is FAR away! We just had a similar experience, the wedding was only in Cancun though. We went and had a wonderful time. And our relationship with them is better because they see they are a priority for us. I hope you can find a way to go, when will you ever have a reason again to go to Hong Kong, I am sure there are some amazing things to see.

Kristin said...

oh kasey girl...you just know exactly what to say and how to say it...i've been struggling lately to let the real me out and about and stand up for what i want to be, to voice my dreams and let them take flight...but not to hong kong ;0) that is tough, family is so hard sometimes...hang in there!

jobs retail said...

I really love people who also love composing poems. I adore you a lot. God bless!!!

Shawn Seay said...

Kasey, You are so talented...I love the idea of laying on a bench talking with my husband...FAMILY...both of my brothers wives have decided that they hate me since the passing of my Dad in May. Sad part of that is that you miss your siblings bunches if the wives don't like you:-( Love the large words. Thanks for being so transparent!

Backyard Candle Co. said...

Aww, you are so cute, laying on park benches, I love it. If I did that,the whole time I would be thinking, is my muffin top showing???? No seriously, you are adorable, and I love your honesty on here. Keep being you Kasey.

Kimberly said...

If I had the perfect family, I would have no reason to blog ;) Thanks, as always, for your honesty!

Kimberly
http://yeptheyareallmine.blogspot.com/

RACHELLE said...

it is very funny that you wrote about this today and asked the question... "Who are You?"

i had a crying fest last night and decided that if i dont have the money to shop and enjoy buying fun vintage outfits or antique treasures ...than i am not sure who i am anymore. is that totally artificial or what?

but thats what made me different than everybody else...

my love of thrift stores and treasure hunts i would go on...and my odd decorating style...

now we are struggling to keep our heads above water and i cant do the things that i love...i cant figure out who i am....if im not "doing" the things i love...i feel lost....?????

i loved your post!
i always do!

rachelle

www.gypsylemonade.blogspot.com

www.supwiththehawkerz.blogspot.com

Amy said...

AMEN!

My brother in law just married an "interesting" girl this weekend as well. I understand completely how you feel.

Very beautifully written.

Katy said...

Sounds sketchy to me and good HEAVENS, why would 'he' go with the whole Hong K. thing? Odd.
You're right, no one is perfect and my evening was perfect example of that tonight. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this foolish-ness. Yuck.
.....don't ya just want to kick her. (I'm mean)

undomestic chica said...

It's nice to know I'm not the only one who struggles with figuring out who they are. Lord knows I have a lot of figuring out to do!

Tracy is ... Loving Pretty Things said...

You know I just adore you, right? I love your transparency. You are just a sparkle in my day, everyday....!

Loved your message with the big words. You have such a great heart for your friends. I've been truly touched by your quick notes saying you're thinking of me. I appreciate it, I love it and I am HORRIBLE at doing it in return. Know that I think of you often, am so so so so so sooooo beyond bummed that I won't be hugging you in 2 weeks - and that I know where to go when I need a virtual hug from a never before met friend in Illinois.

hugs ~ T.

PS Hong Kong? wow. Please tell me she's at least Chinese.......

Jeni said...

You definately should attend with the teeth and the mullet. That would be priceless. Love to you.

truly blessed said...

that was SO sweet! and DEEP! you are a poet at heart, i believe. sounds like a lovely time laying on the park benches. times like that feed the soul.♥ about your future sister-in-law, i've learned to never judge a book by her cover. maybe she's insecure and her hard shell is her fear. think about it this way.....sounds like you'll get a great shopping trip out of it! whatever will you wear to HONG KONG? ;) plus your bound to take some fabulous photos along the way. (i LOVE your vase of flowers pic!) xo

Room Service ~ Decorating 101 said...

Well, I have taken that long, long, plane ride to Hong Kong! It is not fun!!! Do not go! Trust me on this one.

Wendy @ The Shabby Nest said...

Ah, my dear, I love your hidden message. I love that you care. And I know you really do.

Good luck with your new sister-in-law. Hoping if you decide you can afford to go to Hong Kong you'll share your adventures here on the old blog.

And my family IS perfect, by the way...NOT!

Have a good day!! xoxo

Life At Camellia Cottage said...

You are so right! Anyone who says their family gets along all the time, has no disagreements, everyone is sweet and loving and supportive 24/7 is either:

a)an orphan, living alone with their cats, or

b)lying!

I'm just saying . . . . . .

We are imperfect beings, and when you put a number of imperfect beings together there will be 'issues'.

Tell the brother you'll see him when he comes back to the US!

Anyway, who am I??? At 57 I'm still working on that one, but here is where I'm at right now.

I am me. I am a wife to 'him' - my love, my life, and my very best friend. Mama to two little 4 legged girlies. Daughter trying to 'raise' and care for my senior Mama. I am a housekeeper, chef, laudry supervisor, gardener extraordinaire. I am a crafter, creater, 'piddler' of the best order. I am me, and proud to be ME!

Blessings, Becky

Suzann @ The Olive Cottage said...

Awesome post dear Kasey.
I wouldn't even try to explain the people who gave birth to me. Most people wouldn't ever believe me.
May you have a moment today to just be and just enjoy. I will be losing my mind (what little is left). UGH.

Jboo said...

You have such a way with words -- always makes me think when I read your posts!

And while Hong Kong is so far away, it is a really cool city -- stopped there on the way to my daughter and hope to go back some day.

Hope you have a great Thanksgiving with your family!
Janet

Laura said...

Thanks for your thoughtful words today. Very well written. Good luck with your decision on the trip. I think it would be an amazing place to visit.

Farmgirl Paints said...

That was pretty clever Kasey. You do need to tell how to enlarge photos. You can't keep that one to yourself...you are a giver remember:)

Laura said...

and no, not perfect here in my house either! but lots of love!

Leah C said...

Once again, your words astound me...so perfectly said! My family is far from perfect, I am far from perfect, and I blog about our not-so-perfect life:)
A wedding in Hong Kong? That one would be a struggle for me, too. I do hope that once the "new girl" in your family gets to know you more, she'll "fall in love" with you:)

Leah C said...

P.S. I am a girl who loves her family & life, too...and your struggles matter to me, too;)

Anita said...

Yikes. Fortunately for me, my family knows I don't have that kind of cashola...for Hong Kong...for a wedding...that could be here too. How about a stateside celebration for all those who can't go to Hong Kong (I mean- the kiddos and all...)That's what most of my friends who have gotten married somewhere else have done....

I too struggle with one sister-in-law- but it is HER loss...and unfortunately, her kids loss that they don't get so spoiled by me as my other nieces and nephews...

Thankful for your friendship (and customership) at Thanksgiving...

Anita

Denise in MD said...

thank you for sharing, and inspiring my own blog post today. it was so nice to sit with a cup of coffee and spend a few minutes thinking about who i really am. sometimes i get so caught up in all the roles i play that i forget who i am, the faces i show the world, and those i keep hidden. your blog is really beautiful...i love the style of your writing and the photos. if you have time, please visit me at daydreams.typepad.com - i've only had my own blog for a few months, so please excuse the "newby" look/feel (still lots to learn!).

Ellen said...

great post...
Thanks
E

Kacey said...

Wonderful words. It's good to know others go through the same struggles - especially those, like you, whom I think have it totally together!

I don't even know what to SAY about the whole Hong Kong thing! Wow.

Simone said...

I LOVE YOUR BLOG Ms Kasey and I love the way you write....you are quite something...something special of course :)

"Trailer trash"....I hope you are joking....if I had you as a SIL, well to quote that nutcase Rachel Zoe "I die"!! She should be so lucky.

I love the thoughts you have provoked in my head with this post xo

Mary said...

Kasey, my friend...I am the youngest of 8 kids in my family. That is a lot of sisters-in-law! I know aaaallll about family drama. Enough said. ;o) ~mary~

The Flying Bee said...

not perfect, that's for sure!

yep, know all about the imperfect family...I'll be spending Thursday with a bunch of them! :)

B said...

What a lovely post...and to tell you the truth, it really is your sister-in-laws loss...none of us are perfect. B x

traci said...

beautiful post and man, you are pretty clever. i would kill to see you in some billybob teeth.

Andrea - Faded Plains said...

Beautifully said...beautifully written...just beautiful.

PS~Erin said...

I didn't, but I had to go back. Love that little detail.

I don't think I could do this. I mean say who I am. I could say who other people are in my life. Why is that so? Thanks for the thought provoking post here.

And, no, family is perfect. I like to say that the most functional seeming families might just be the most dysfunctional. Have you seen that new show Modern Family? Brilliantly funny. So dysfunctionally functional.

Happy Thanksgiving week to you!

a little bit vintage said...

Well said Kasey. :) We are in the same boat...it's it comforting to know that you aren't alone. :) We are by no means a perfect family either, BUT we have love, we have our faith, we have each other...we are truly blessed. Good luck with the Hong Kong trip. :)

Smiles,
rachel

Brenna LaPray said...

Hong Kong?!?

We are definetly not a perfect famiy but we all love each other.

Hong Kong! Really! Good luck with that.

Beautiful post.

Nozomi said...

Hi, Kasey!
Loved the post :) Wish I could write like you sometimes...so open and poetic:)
Maybe your brother in law and his soon to be wife are opening a new chapter...with new adventures...at a place that is kind of far away:)

You know, how we all dream about a wedding in a castle in Europe :) Maybe it was Hong Kong for her...:)which is not the place many of us dream about...

Yes, going to Hong Kong is way too expensive so maybe they can share a tape of their Hong Kong wedding at their home with small party afterwards??

Anyway, I always thought we are all silly and imparfect...:) That's what makes life special, right? to give us something to work on so we never get bored..:)

Happy Monday and hope you have a special Thanksgiving week :)

paperhill said...

i couldn't agree more. personally, i don't think perfect exists, in heaven but not here. life is hard but beautiful too. we all have our up & downs, happy times and heartaches. thanks sweet friend. xo
have a wonderful thanksgiving!

paige said...

i think my favorite thing about this post is picturing you & hottie bryan just hanging out & chatting about your lives
i love that
you are precious friend
& thank goodness you dont' have a perfect family
makes me love you even more
xo

Shelley in SC said...

I LOVE the message within a message! So creative. I so enjoy reading here and feeling like I've met a friend : ).

Jo said...

No is perfect, however many pretend to be. We are who we are and that's what makes us ~ us!

Jo

Andrea Villarreal said...

I had been wondering where you've been. Thanks for stopping by. And I forgot to say thank you so much for the honey dipper and the lavendar dryer bags. I love them so much!! I would have never thought to buy those but now I see I am going to have to get some more.
Oh kasey no one is perfect hon. But going all the way to where is it, Hong Kong, well that seems a little much:) I can't stand my sister in law if you can call her whiny butt that but I play nice every holiday I have to see her. Because I do adore my little nephew. So sometimes you just have to suck it up. I do wish I had more patience for her. Maybe that's what I need to work on. There is always room for improvement:)

Anonymous said...

My family went through a similiar situation a few years ago. My father-in-law got married in Boca, Florida. The bride's family thought we were the Beverly Hillbillys. Sad to say that marriage only lasted a few years!

I love your blog. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

KarenSue said...

Do you read all these comments? I feel lost in comments. I'm just jealous of ya. Oh well, it's funny, I'm sitting here reading your blog and my hubby and start talking about his brother and sister-in-law. He is this guiet mouse and she is this bossy know it all. They are here in Orlando from South Carolina as we speak and do they call us? Nooooo! She doesn't like me. How can you not like me? I'm so nice-really! I'll stop now. But to answer your question-no we are not perfect and it's sad the holidays bring it out more.
Happy Holidays to ya-you hill billy. Love your blog.

susan said...

I loved this post!
susan

Laura said...

I can not relate to any of this because my family is so perfect and I have no struggles. I know exactly who I am and I love myself so much that it hurts.

Holly said...

Oh boy!! I can sooo relate on the bro in law thing!! We have a "girl" like that in our family...and i did read the bigger words ...sooo sweet;)

NancyG said...

Kasey,
You always give me something to think about! Love the post.
Nancy

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mimi charmante said...

I read your big words - it made me even more excited to see you because you are so darn FABULOUS!
One week my friend, one week...
xx

Rue said...

Funny... the older I get the more I realize how normal our family is and everyone I thought was normal isn't at all. Perfect?? um... no. Not at all, but I love my life.

I have the worst sister in law. God help you, if she turns out like mine... ugh.

prashant said...

This world is crazy and it's taking it's toll out on families.

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The Fuller Family said...

I'm late in reading this...great post. Very sweet way to communicate to your readers (I'm new to your blog as of today, by the way).